Sad Time of Life
I am at a sad time in my life. One that I hoped I would never be in. As God's Word says, "In the last days Father's will be at odds with their daughters Mothers will at odds with their sons. Vice a versa for the children". That time is here and now for me. It has been going on for a few years with my two older children. My relationship with our oldest daughter has been good some years and bad most of the others. At this time, she is not willing to forgive me as I have asked her to and move on. She doesn't keep in touch with me and I don't get to see the grandkids. The grandkids are 14 and 18 now and it has been months since they have even spoken to me on the phone.
Her and our son gave me so much grief at times I almost went crazy. I had to step back and stop trying to help them. That was the only way I could get through the day and keep sane. The more I tried to help the more needy they became. They wanted to call and talk to me about how terrible their life was, but didn't want my advice. Every time our daughter called it was the same problems. Nothing ever changed. I got so tired of hearing the same thing over and over without her truly doing anything about it to make changes to the problems she was experiencing.
I was truly surprised when she took off work to be at my cancer surgery back in April. I really didn't expect to see her and the granddaughter there. Our son was out of town and his wife had drove up to see him. He is a truck driver and is on the road most of the time. She only spent the few hours for the surgery and went home. I truly appreciated that. I said some pretty tough things to her that she hasn't gotten over. What I said was the truth. Sometimes the truth hurts. But I did not say them to hurt her. The comments actually were about other family members and how upset I was over the choices they were making in their lives at that time. She took the comments personally and lashed out at me. I finally told her I would be leaving her alone and if she wanted to talk to me or if the kids wanted to be in touch it would be up to them. I was done with trying. I have not heard from her since. I only hear how she and her kids are doing through our youngest daughter or my husband. I have sent her text to inform her of family events, with no response. She did not acknowledge me on Mother's Day. I text and said Happy Birthday to her, with no response. I then asked her again to forgive me for hurting her and move on. Still no response. I doubt I will ever hear from her again. It is all up to her now.
It is so sad that there is so much hatred and meanness amoung families. It is sad it has to be this way. You should be able to rely on God first and your family second. In most families some one is always upset or mad at another member and tries to turn everyone else against the one. Your brother or sister would just as soon stab you in the back as to look at you. I am not close to either one of mine and haven't been for years.
I could go on and on about how my life stinks right now, but I won't. I do not write this stuff for anyone but myself. I do not want anyone's pitty. God is with me all the time. He is faithful and true. He is all I need.
Good day
*Starlight*
Her and our son gave me so much grief at times I almost went crazy. I had to step back and stop trying to help them. That was the only way I could get through the day and keep sane. The more I tried to help the more needy they became. They wanted to call and talk to me about how terrible their life was, but didn't want my advice. Every time our daughter called it was the same problems. Nothing ever changed. I got so tired of hearing the same thing over and over without her truly doing anything about it to make changes to the problems she was experiencing.
I was truly surprised when she took off work to be at my cancer surgery back in April. I really didn't expect to see her and the granddaughter there. Our son was out of town and his wife had drove up to see him. He is a truck driver and is on the road most of the time. She only spent the few hours for the surgery and went home. I truly appreciated that. I said some pretty tough things to her that she hasn't gotten over. What I said was the truth. Sometimes the truth hurts. But I did not say them to hurt her. The comments actually were about other family members and how upset I was over the choices they were making in their lives at that time. She took the comments personally and lashed out at me. I finally told her I would be leaving her alone and if she wanted to talk to me or if the kids wanted to be in touch it would be up to them. I was done with trying. I have not heard from her since. I only hear how she and her kids are doing through our youngest daughter or my husband. I have sent her text to inform her of family events, with no response. She did not acknowledge me on Mother's Day. I text and said Happy Birthday to her, with no response. I then asked her again to forgive me for hurting her and move on. Still no response. I doubt I will ever hear from her again. It is all up to her now.
It is so sad that there is so much hatred and meanness amoung families. It is sad it has to be this way. You should be able to rely on God first and your family second. In most families some one is always upset or mad at another member and tries to turn everyone else against the one. Your brother or sister would just as soon stab you in the back as to look at you. I am not close to either one of mine and haven't been for years.
I could go on and on about how my life stinks right now, but I won't. I do not write this stuff for anyone but myself. I do not want anyone's pitty. God is with me all the time. He is faithful and true. He is all I need.
Good day
*Starlight*
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